18:22 “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.”
Proverbs 18:22 (NIV)
Andy Dalton, All-Pro quarterback, Cincinnati Bengals (2011-2019), Dallas Cowboys
Andy Dalton has his priorities in order. He practices long hours at his craft, dedicates time to give back to the community, helps those around him improve, and he lets the whole world know he’s married – even when he’s on the football field.
For a few justifiable reasons, many football players do not wear a wedding band when they go to work. There is a risk of injury should a symbol of love be caught or snagged on a jersey. A player might have his finger broken or may lose the valuable token on the field of play.
One of his fellow alumni from Texas Christian University was a co-founder of Qalo, the company that makes rubber rings for active athletes to wear. For Andy, these were a perfect fit. The All-Pro signal caller likes the concept so much he wears the bands everywhere he goes – even into the huddle.
“I am married, and to wear a ring and not have to worry about it getting damaged is nice,” he said. “I want everyone to know I’m married, and I have no reason to take this ring off.”
“He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord” (Proverbs 18:22 NIV).
If you are married, do those around you know you are committed? Do you wear your ring if you can? Are you dedicated?
For most, this is a no-brainer. Of course, you wear your ring all the time. There might be instances when you take it off, for example when you do yard work or repair the car. You don’t want to lose the symbol of your love or damage it when you do work around the house.
But what if you take a road trip away from home? Maybe you and your spouse had a fight, or you feel you no longer have “excitement” in your marriage. Or perhaps you have allowed a door to open that should have stayed closed.
You might have heard from a former girlfriend who has reached out to you on social media and wants to reconnect because her marriage failed.
You know the right call to make. In your heart, there is no question. There are no excuses.
Be faithful to your spouse no matter the circumstance. The main target of the devil is the family. If he can intercept a pass or tackle you in the backfield, he will be thrilled.
Here are some suggestions on how to show you are dedicated to your spouse:
Show love: Do your best to nurture and cherish your spouse. There might be circumstances outside of your control, but always show love.
“Husbands love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25 NIV).
Show respect: Honoring your mate is always important, but even more so if you have children. Little ears and eyes hear and see what goes on in the home, and you must model the example for them to follow someday when they have families of their own.
Show affection: Hold hands in public or cuddle on the couch. Your spouse may not need 100 percent of your attention, but some is needed.
Show humble leadership: God expects the man of the home to lead by example. This does not give you the authority to be a dictator. Pray and ask for God’s guidance.
Share decisions with your spouse and be flexible. “Kings detest wrongdoing, for a throne is established through righteousness” (Proverbs 16:12 NIV).
Show devotion: This is true in all situations – good times and bad. There might be emotional, physical or financial issues to deal with in life.
Christ loved the church and you so much He sacrificed His life for mankind. Honor your spouse. and let them know you are willing to do whatever it takes to defend them. Stay faithful and true. Wear your ring and take pride in your marriage.
When you take a stand and let everyone know you are married and proud to be with your partner for life, doubt and insecurity will flee.
Dalton steps up and delivers in the clutch while thousands of people watch the football sail through the air and into the grasp of a receiver for a score. At the same time, they see the ring on his hand and know he’s a committed and dedicated husband.
*You can read more devotions like these condensed ones in First Down Devotions: Inspirations from NFL’s Best by Del Duduit